If you are having suicidal thoughts, contact theNational Suicide Prevention Lifelineat988for support and assistance from a trained counselor. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
Do you feel like you need help and don’t know where to turn? If you’ve hit the point of wanting to ask for help or the thought “Please help me” keeps running through your mind, it’s likely that you’ve hit some sort of a crisis point in your life and don’t know how to deal with your situation.
You probably know something is wrong in your life, but feel as though you need advice or direction to put you at ease and give you hope that your problem can be solved. If this is the situation that you are in, know that there are steps you can take to get the help that you need and to start feeling better.
I Need Help: What to Do If You Feel This Way
What Are You Feeling?
If you keep thinking “Please help me,” the first step is to ask yourself exactly what you are experiencing in the moment. What feelings or thoughts are coming up that have left you feeling this way?
If you can get clear about the emotions you are experiencing, then it will be easier to explain to others what you are going through. In turn, this will make it easier for others to be able to help you or give you direction.
Here are some possible painful and challenging emotions that you might be experiencing that have left you feeling as though you need help from someone:
If you aren’t exactly sure what you are feeling, try writing in a journal about what’s going on that has left you feeling this way. Try not to overthink it and just write as things come to you.
Keep writing until you dig deep enough to get at the emotions that you are experiencing or how you have been feeling about what’s going on. Once you have a better idea of your emotions, you'll be able to describe them to someone else when you ask for help.
What Is Wrong?
Beyond being able to articulate the emotions that you are experiencing, it might also be helpful to be able to describe to someone what has caused you to feel this way. While you might not always be aware of the reasons for how you are feeling, other times there might be a clear trigger or situation that is causing you concern.
Below are some potential causes of feeling as though you need help.
- Job loss/Job insecurity
- Stressful working conditions
- Traumatic events
- Underlying mental health conditions (e.g., depression, personality disorders)
- Financial stress
- Problematic relationships
- Moving to a new place
- Major life changes (e.g., having your first child)
- Experiencing discrimination
- Bullying or harassment
- Loneliness or isolation
- Addiction/substance abuse
- Rejection, abuse, or neglect
These are just some examples of things that might be causing you to feel as though you need help. If you haven’t already, take a moment to write down all of the things that are creating this feeling in your life.
Having a list of what’s wrong or what your feelings are will make it easier to focus on how you can start feeling better.
You could also rate each area of your life on a scale from 1 to 10 to see which are lowest for you and potentially causing you to feel as though you need help.
Where to Find Direction
Once you’ve identified the emotions that you are experiencing and the potential triggers or causes contributing to how you are feeling, you might be wondering how to go about getting help, finding advice, or getting some direction.
While Googling your problems might be a good first step to finding answers or finding others who have been through something similar, there are many more options for reaching out for help. Below are some ideas of steps you can take to find help.
Friends and Family
An obvious place to start is to tell a friend or family member about how you’ve been feeling. Just being able to vent your frustrations or get them out in the open might be enough for you to start feeling better.
If you do find that you are feeling better, make a point of talking to someone on a regular basis so that you don’t keep feelings bottled up. Isolation can make negative emotions worse, so it’s best to avoid isolating yourself.
If you don’t have anyone close to you that will lend a listening ear or if you're not ready to talk to anyone, you could consider using a listening service such as 7 Cups. While the listeners on the other end are not professionals, they are trained to listen and respond in a way that helps you to work through your frustrations and problems.
Crisis Lines and Help Lines
What if your situation is dire or urgent? In these cases, your first step should be to reach out to a crisis line or help line. In the United States, call 988 for free and confidential support if you are in distress or crisis. If you are experiencing a medical emergency then you should call 911 or your local emergency number.
Are you struggling with a problem for which there are support groups to help? If so, consider joining one of these groups to talk with others who have gone through the same things as you.
Being able to talk about your problems with others who understand will help you to feel less alone with your struggles.
In some situations, you may find that reaching out for professional help is appropriate. For example, if you are looking for help because of physical or psychological issues that aren’t related to an identifiable situational trigger, you might need the help of a professional to discern what is going on.
If you do have a diagnosable physical or mental health condition, receiving treatment in the form of therapy or medication could be the one thing you need to turn your situation around. If this is your situation, reaching out to your family doctor is usually the best first step.
Your doctor will ask questions about your symptoms, including their nature, duration, and severity. They may then make a referral to an appropriate specialist if needed.
If your need for help centers around a feeling of loneliness or not having anyone to talk to, joining a local community group could be helpful. For example, you could find a local club to join such as a book club or knitting club.
You could also attend a local church or volunteer with a local non-profit organization. The key is to keep showing up and spending time around the same people; eventually those people will start to feel more like friends.
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Mentors, Teachers, or Religious Leaders
Another option for asking for help is to reach out to a religious leader, teacher, or other potential mentor whom you already know or with whom you already have a connection.
While it might feel awkward sharing your feelings, know that these individuals are in these positions because of their desire to help. At the very least, they can likely point you in the direction of where to receive more help for your specific concerns.
Introspection or Meditation
What if you are not ready to reach out for help? Or what if you feel as though you’d like to go it on your own a bit longer? This might mean practicing meditation, journaling about your feelings, or completing a self-help workbook.
This option is best suited to problems that are not urgent in nature. It’s also best if you have a good ability to think deeply about what’s troubling you and also a motivation to work on solutions.
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How to Feel More at Ease
In addition to reaching out for help from others, you may want to consider coping strategies that you can use on your own to feel better when you have that out of control feeling that you need “desperate help.”
While you can’t control what happens to you or your underlying propensity toward mental health issues, how you live your day-to-day life can have an impact on how you feel.
For example, if you react to anxious feelings this often creates more anxiety than if you simply rode out the anxiety like a wave reaching shore.
Below are some ideas of actions that you can take or self-care strategies you can put into place to help prevent that feeling of overwhelm that leads to you desperately needing help.
If your need for help is combined with a feeling of anxiety and panic, then you’ll want to do things to help calm yourself down. Ideas include practicing deep breathing from your diaphragm, making yourself a cup of chamomile tea, and listening to a relaxation meditation recording.
Distraction & Enjoyment
Sometimes, when your mind has run away with the worst case scenario, it can be helpful to distract yourself or do something that you enjoy, if only to get some perspective or distance from what is bothering you.
Below are some ideas of things you could do as a distraction or for enjoyment. Obviously, you’ll want to choose activities that are enjoyable to you or that will help you to take your mind off your current situation.
- Watch an interesting television series or movie
- Read a fictional book set in a faraway place
- Meet up with friends at a new spot
- Play a game of badminton or another sport you enjoy
- Try your hand at a new form of painting
- Listen to some uplifting music
- Go for a walk somewhere new
- Write a short story, poem, song, or novel
- Try your hand at drawing
If you struggle with your mental health, one of the best things that you can do is to practice healthy habits. These are things that help both your physical and mental health, and help to regulate your brain chemistry to keep you feeling good. Below are some ideas of healthy habits that you could start to practice.
- Take a multivitamin or supplement (see your doctor to assess whether you are deficient)
- Get outside in nature (e.g., go for a walk; sunlight helps to provide Vitamin D and reduce risk of depression)
- Get regular exercise to raise your endorphins and feel better (e.g., 30 minutes, 3 to 4 times a week)
- Stick to a regular sleep schedule and practice good sleep hygiene (e.g., no screen time one hour before bed, no devices in the bedroom)
- Eat a healthy diet
If depression is part of what is causing you pain, then sticking to a regular schedule as much as possible will be helpful. This includes eating regular meals, showering regularly, being productive every day (whether that means going to work or some other task, no matter how small it may seem), and sticking to a sleep schedule.
It can be tricky to decipher whether your situation is causing you pain, or if your thoughts about your situation are the culprit. Often it’s a combination of the two, but in many cases, your thoughts are the only thing that you have control over.
Watching your self talk and monitoring it for negative thinking patterns can be a helpful self-help strategy for managing negative emotions.
For example, you might have a pattern of believing that because you experience a particular emotion, it must mean that there is something wrong or that you should feel a certain way. This is particularly true if you live with a mental health condition like depression or anxiety that can cloud your judgment and make it hard to see beyond your anxious or depressive thoughts.
Remember That Thoughts Are Not Facts
One thing to remember is that your thoughts are not necessarily accurate and they do not define who you are or how you choose to react. You can, in fact, choose to view your thoughts as products of your mind that you, as a detective, can be curious about and ask questions about.
This means doing a bit of work such as writing down your thoughts when you notice that you are having a negative emotional reaction, looking for distortions in your thoughts, and reframing the situation using more realistic thinking patterns.
While this can take some time to do, over time and with practice, it will become easier and feel more natural to catch your negative thoughts and replace them quickly.
Another self-help strategy that can be helpful if you struggle with a lot of negative emotions is to find a way to express or release your negative emotions such as sadness or anger. Creative pursuits such as playing an instrument, painting, or writing poetry can be one way to let out sadness. In the case of anger, more physical pursuits such as sports or exercise may be effective for releasing adrenaline and pent-up feelings.
It can be easy to slip into the feeling of never having enough in your life, particularly if you are struggling with problems that are weighing you down. However, learning how to practice daily gratitude will go a long way toward making you more appreciative of what you do have that’s good. This type of practice will serve you well even when you no longer feel as though you are drowning.
Below are some ideas on how to incorporate gratitude into your daily life:
- At the end of each day, write down three things that you are grateful for. Go into detail and write some of the reasons you are grateful for them. Or, you can write about three things that went well that day.
- Before bed each night, imagine waking up the next only having the things that you were grateful for the night before. Watch how this causes you to quickly run through a “gratitude rampage” where you list everything that you would not want to live without.
- Each morning when you wake up, ask the universe (or whatever spiritual body you believe in) “Show me how it gets better.” Then, your job throughout the day is to be on the lookout for how things are getting better.
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Another way to move beyond your problems is to accept them fully. This doesn’t mean that you accept your circumstances or that you don’t try to solve problems. Rather, it means that you accept and acknowledge whatever problems you are facing, but understand that they do not define who you are or what you can accomplish.
Are you struggling with staying in the moment or being mindful when you feel as though you need help? Practicing mindfulness exercises such as imagining your thoughts as leaves floating down the river can help.
In general, stopping several times a day to be really present in the moment instead of thinking about the future or the past will help you to be more mindful.
Often, your physical environment will be a reflection of how you are feeling on the inside. However, you can also work backwards and clean up your physical environment so that it starts to make you feel better. This might be easier said than done if you are struggling with a mental health condition like depression. However, just doing a little bit each day can add up to bigger changes than you might expect.
Sometimes the thing you need most is a change of scenery or change of perspective. While this might not always be possible, if you can, try to change something in your life to give yourself a break or see things in a different light. Below are some potential ideas on how to change things up or get some perspective.
- Ask for a leave of absence from work
- Take a class to learn something new
- Go somewhere you’ve never gone before
- Make new friends or expand your social circle
- Move to a new place or take a vacation
- Dress differently than you normally would
Finally, if you are truly struggling and feeling like you need help, it’s likely that you are in need of more social connection. This could also mean that you are in need of more physical connection. If you don’t have a significant other in your life, even having a pet like a dog or cat to keep you company and snuggle with at night could make a difference.
Oxytocin is released when you bond with someone (or even a pet) that you love. This hormone helps you to feel calm, secure, and connected to others.
If you do have people in your life but haven’t connected with them in a while, a simply hug could go a long way to making you feel better. And if distance or other obstacles prevent this from happening, you can get the same effect by sending them a gift.
When to Seek Help
Talk to your doctor or a mental health professional if you experience any of the following:
- Depression symptoms (including low mood, loss of interest, fatigue, and feelings of worthlessness) that last longer than two weeks
- Changes in your sleep, appetite, or activity levels
- Mental health symptoms that interfere with your ability to function normally in your daily life
- Psychological distress that makes it difficult to cope or function
- Reliance on unhealthy coping skills to manage stress
- Emotional symptoms or behaviors that disrupt healthy relationships
- Self-harming behaviors
- Suicidal thoughts or behaviors
If you decide that you need professional help to manage your symptoms, there are a number of different options available. The right intervention depends on factors such as your specific diagnosis and the nature and severity of your symptoms. In many cases, your doctor or therapist may recommend psychotherapy, medication, or a combination of the two.
There are many different types of therapy, and the approach that is right for you may depend on the symptoms you are experiencing. Some types of therapy you might consider include:
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Psychodynamic therapy
- Humanistic therapy
- Interpersonal therapy
- Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
Medications may also be prescribed to help you cope with specific symptoms, such as anxiety or depression. Some of the most commonly prescribed psychiatric medications include:
- Celexa (citalopram)
- Lexapro (escitalopram)
- Prozac (fluoxetine)
- Welbutrin (bupropion)
- Zoloft (sertraline)
In most cases, help is available on an outpatient basis. If your symptoms are severe or pose a risk to your well-being, hospitalization is also an option.
A Word From Verywell
No matter how bad you are feeling right now, know that you are not alone and that millions of other people are feeling the same way. It’s not unusual to sometimes feel as though you need help. And, it’s important not to ignore that feeling in the hopes that it will go away.
Taking action, even if that just means making an appointment with your doctor, calling a friend, or going for a walk, will help you to start feeling as though you have the power to make change. Because in the end, it’s only through you taking action that things will change.
For this reason, it’s your job to look for solutions. At the same time, those solutions often mean asking for help from others. Start with the smallest step, and see if you can’t find the help that you need once you get clear on what’s wrong, why you are feeling the way that you’re feeling, and what you are hoping to change. Once you take that first step, you'll likely find that it's easier to take the next steps after that toward feeling better.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org . Text MHA to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor from Crisis Text Line . Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.What to do if you're struggling? ›
- Talk to Someone You Trust. If you're struggling mentally, it's important to reach out for help. ...
- Exercise and Eat Healthy. ...
- Seek Out Support Groups. ...
- Find Something That Makes You Happy. ...
- You're Not Alone.
What is a Mental Health Crisis? A mental health crisis is any situation in which a person's actions, feelings, and behaviors can lead to them hurting themselves or others, and/or put them at risk of being unable to care for themselves or function in the community in a healthy manner.Who can I talk to about my problems for free? ›
- LifeLine Johannesburg. ...
- LifeLine Western Cape. ...
- South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) ...
- Grace Counselling. ...
- Revive Counselling Centre. ...
- Hope House Counselling Centre.
Feelings of failure or decreased performance. Feeling that life is not worth living, having no sense of purpose in life. Talk about feeling trapped—like there is no way out of a situation. Having feelings of desperation, and saying that there's no solution to their problems.Why my life is so struggling? ›
If you don't have clear goals, it can be hard to stay on track. Without goals that you're working toward, you may feel like you're floundering aimlessly. You'll do your best when you have clear goals in mind. Your goals can help you make decisions about your career, your finances, and your social life.Who do u go to when ur depressed? ›
It's particularly important to speak to a GP if you: have symptoms of depression that are not improving. find your mood affects your work, other interests, and relationships with your family and friends.What should I do in a mental breakdown? ›
Call your healthcare provider. If you feel you're in a crisis, call your healthcare provider right away. If you have thoughts of harming yourself, call 911 or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1.800. 273.What are the 5 signs of mental illness? ›
- Feeling sad or down.
- Confused thinking or reduced ability to concentrate.
- Excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt.
- Extreme mood changes of highs and lows.
- Withdrawal from friends and activities.
- Significant tiredness, low energy or problems sleeping.
- Be honest. The best way to ask for help is to simply tell the other person what you need. ...
- Choose the best method. ...
- Watch the body language. ...
- Pay for help. ...
- Be open to receiving. ...
- Express gratitude.
Resources like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK), or the Crisis Text Line (text TALK to 741-741) are available for anyone, and can connect you to help.What are the signs of a mental breakdown? ›
- Thoughts of suicide.
- Sense of worthlessness.
- Unable to sleep.
- Lacking appetite.
- Inability to focus.
- Severe disappointment with their life.
feel overwhelmed — unable to concentrate or make decisions. be moody — feeling low or depression; feeling burnt out; emotional outbursts of uncontrollable anger, fear, helplessness or crying. feel depersonalised — not feeling like themselves or feeling detached from situations.What is a nervous breakdown? ›
The term "nervous breakdown" is sometimes used by people to describe a stressful situation in which they're temporarily unable to function normally in day-to-day life. It's commonly understood to occur when life's demands become physically and emotionally overwhelming.Who to call when you have no one to talk to? ›
If you are in crisis and a warmline can't provide the level of support you need, you can reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 or using the chat box at 988lifeline.org. You can also text “MHA” to 741-741 to reach the Crisis Text Line.Who can you talk to if you have a problem? ›
Another Trusted Person
If you don't feel comfortable speaking about your issues to your best friend, parent, or sibling, you can always talk to someone you trust. You can speak to a relative, pastor, or therapist. Children and teens can talk to their teacher or school counselor.
Talk With Your Doctor or a Therapist
Even if you already talked with a parent or another adult, it's still good to talk with a doctor or therapist. They can ask the right questions and listen. They can identify any mental health problems. They can tell you about treatment and support that will help.
A nervous breakdown can last from a few hours to a few weeks. If your breakdown has been going on for a while, and you need some relief, the following ten tips are for you. They will help you not only survive this difficult time, but they might even help you grow from this difficult experience.What are red flags for mental health crisis? ›
In mental health triage can be undertaken face to face or via telephone: 'red flags' include suicidal ideas, intent or actions, violence and aggression set in the context of psychosis and specific items such as command hallucinations, delusional misidentification and grandiose delusions.Should I check myself into a mental hospital? ›
If you are suicidal or homicidal, you should check yourself into a mental hospital. If you are actively hallucinating or if you are unable to get your mood swings under control in an outpatient setting, then inpatient treatment is probably appropriate.
Adolescence is the hardest stage for one's life. There are too many drastic life changes like physical, psychological and behavioral changes going on in one's life.How do you live an unhappy life? ›
- Complain (Harp on bad things that happen) ...
- Avoid your problems. ...
- Compare with others. ...
- Worry about things that have not happened yet. ...
- Let your problems overwhelm you. ...
- Do things you don't love. ...
- Stay on in relationships that no longer serve you. ...
- Try to change other people.
- Develop a gratitude attitude. ...
- Find a reason to laugh. ...
- Take a nap (no, seriously) ...
- Exercise. ...
- Find out what makes you tick. ...
- Nurture positive relationships. ...
- Go out and meet people. ...
- Create a bucket list and set goals for yourself.
- Stressful events. Most people take time to come to terms with stressful events, such as bereavement or a relationship breakdown. ...
- Personality. ...
- Family history. ...
- Giving birth. ...
- Loneliness. ...
- Alcohol and drugs. ...
To diagnose an anxiety disorder, a doctor performs a physical exam, asks about your symptoms, and recommends a blood test, which helps the doctor determine if another condition, such as hypothyroidism, may be causing your symptoms. The doctor may also ask about any medications you are taking.What do doctors do for people with depression? ›
A GP may recommend that you take a course of antidepressants plus talking therapy, particularly if your depression is quite severe. A combination of an antidepressant and CBT usually works better than having just one of these treatments.What happens to your body when you have a mental breakdown? ›
Symptoms of a nervous breakdown may include emotional distress as well as physical effects, like chest pains and difficulty breathing. This kind of breakdown typically comes after experiencing a great deal of stress that you find you can't cope with in healthy ways.What happens to your mind during a mental breakdown? ›
Losing interest in your favorite activities. Difficulty breathing. Uncontrollable crying. Thoughts of self-harm or suicide.What is the difference between a nervous breakdown and a mental breakdown? ›
A nervous breakdown is also known as a mental breakdown. The term is not an official diagnosis and is not used by the medical community. However, it is sometimes used to describe when mental distress suddenly becomes so overwhelming that a person can't function in their day-to-day life.What are 3 warning signs of schizophrenia? ›
- Delusions. These are false beliefs that are not based in reality. ...
- Hallucinations. These usually involve seeing or hearing things that don't exist. ...
- Disorganized thinking (speech). ...
- Extremely disorganized or abnormal motor behavior. ...
- Negative symptoms.
The outward signs of a mental illness are often behavioral. A person may be extremely quiet or withdrawn. Conversely, they may burst into tears, have great anxiety or have outbursts of anger. Even after treatment has started, someindividuals with a mental illness can exhibit anti-social behaviors.Why am I needy for attention? ›
Attention-seeking behavior may stem from jealousy, low self-esteem, loneliness, or as a result of a personality disorder. If you notice this behavior in you or someone else, a mental health professional can provide diagnosis and treatment options.How do you ask for emotional help? ›
- Check your assumptions about asking for help.
- Make a decision to ask for help.
- Choose whom to ask.
- Consider the best time to ask.
- Ask in the face of discomfort.
- Use assertive communication skills.
- Be as clear as possible about what you need.
- If someone agrees to help, let them – and receive it gratefully.
Asking for help often makes people feel uneasy because it requires surrendering control to someone else. “There are some people who really have a hard time with that piece of it,” she says. Another fear is being perceived as needy. “We don't want to be ashamed of our situation, or come across as incompetent,” she says.How to help someone with mental illness? ›
- DO Listen with an open mind. ...
- DON'T Make comments such as “You're fine” or “Cheer up” ...
- DO Ask Questions. ...
- DON'T Say you know how they feel if you don't. ...
- DO Encourage them to seek help. ...
- DON'T Question their medical decisions. ...
- DO Help out with daily tasks.
If you're facing a difficult time or situation, something that's causing depression, high stress and anxiety, and is making it difficult or impossible for you to enjoy life, it may be time to seek out professional help.How do you know when to get help? ›
- Struggling to work, parent or keep up at home.
- Unable to handle stress with normal coping strategies.
- Difficulty maintaining a healthy appetite or experiencing significant weight loss.
- Using drugs or alcohol to cope.
- Engaging in risk-taking behaviors.
- Unable to focus.
- Struggling to work, parent or keep up at home.
- Unable to handle stress with normal coping strategies.
- Difficulty maintaining a healthy appetite or experiencing significant weight loss.
- Using drugs or alcohol to cope.
- Engaging in risk-taking behaviors.
- Unable to focus.
Text HOME to 741741 if you need to talk with someone. You can also try: Reach out to friends and family: in this modern world, there are so many ways you can connect with the people who mean the most to you. Don't live in the same city?When should I seek mental help? ›
In general, however, professional help might be needed if you experience: Marked changes in personality, eating or sleeping patterns. An inability to cope with problems or daily activities. Feeling of disconnection or withdrawal from normal activities.
- Significant decline in work performance, poor work attendance, or lack of productivity.
- Social withdrawal from activities, friends, or family.
- Substance (alcohol and drugs) abuse.
- Sleep disturbances (like persistent nightmares, insomnia, hypersomnia, or flashbacks)
Experiencing irritation, anger, feeling snappy and easily frustrated, or mood swings that fly from one extreme to the other could be a sign that your mental health is out of whack.What to do when you have no one to do anything with? ›
- Attend a club or organization meeting. Sometimes they will have an open house for potential members. ...
- Take a class. This is another good way to meet new people. ...
- Meet people at work. ...
- Join a social media group. ...
- Get out more.
- try talking about your feelings to a friend, family member, health professional or counsellor. ...
- consider joining a group or class that focuses on something you enjoy; you could ask to go along and just watch first if you're feeling nervous.
Professionals you can open up to about your mental health include doctors, therapists, or peer supporters. If you already see a doctor, that can be a great place to start—and they can help you find a therapist or any other specialists you may need to see. If you're in school, a school counselor can help you with this.What are the 7 main mental disorders? ›
- Anxiety Disorders.
- Mood Disorders.
- Psychotic Disorders.
- Eating Disorders.
- Personality Disorders.
The majority of individuals who have a mental illness do not seek or receive treatment. Individuals fear judgment, change, the unknown, and what they might discover in therapy; additionally, they're too prideful to admit they need help.Why do I not seek help? ›
Distrust in treatment. This may also stem from stigma; those with addiction and/or mental illness may fear that they'll be judged by their therapist and others in their healthcare team – and they'd rather avoid these potential situations by not seeking help. They believe they'll never get better.Why is it hard for me to seek help? ›
Asking for help often makes people feel uneasy because it requires surrendering control to someone else. “There are some people who really have a hard time with that piece of it,” she says. Another fear is being perceived as needy. “We don't want to be ashamed of our situation, or come across as incompetent,” she says.